In the year and a bit that I have been blogging, I have made several friends – most of them bloggers themselves.
I have learned so much about life and living from these talented, courageous, supportive, funny, adventurous and thoughtful women. Through their posts they let me into their worlds, sharing the good, bad and everything in between.
I know it might seem odd that I consider people I have not met friends – not “internet friends” or “online friends” simply friends – but having lived in different places over the years I’m used to hardly ever seeing people I have connected with, if at all (including family members). It doesn’t make them any less important to me. And with people I have met online it’s just the other way around; we are friends who might one day actually meet.
I’m not sure it makes a difference. In fact, I know it doesn’t.
Something recently happened to one of my friends, something awful and unexpected, tragic and heartbreaking.
Her beautiful daughter was stillborn at 40 + 3.
It was a sharp reminder, once again, that bad things happen to good people. However, what I have realised in the nearly two weeks since, is that while there might be no way to stop the bad, good people have a way of letting their light and love shine even in the darkest of times.
I have wanted to blog but I didn’t know what to say – maybe because there is nothing that I can say – but Mands is somehow finding the words. She has decided to continue blogging, not just as a way to help herself but also so that she might be able to support others.
Maybe, as her friend, my role is not so much about writing but reading and offering support if she needs it.
With much love to Mands and Tom.